One of my friends on Facebook shared a video that a guy made in response to Meagan Good and Devon Franklin’s video. The guy was bold and called out something that I saw too, but I was too cowardly to speak up on. But, after watching it, I had to write this.
Okay, so for those who don’t know, the actress Meagan Good and her husband, Devon Franklin wrote a book called, “The Wait.” It’s about abstinence and not having sex before marriage. Both profess Christianity and they have been doing interviews promoting their book. Before I even get into this, I want to say, I admire their mission and ministry to encourage couples to wait on God. I certainly believe lives will be touched and people will grow from reading their book. I plan to read it myself. As a married woman, who knows what I may learn.
Devon was seen in the video, defending Meagan after a lady in the audience rudely addressed Meagan about being photographed in a dress that showed her breast. When Devon stood up for his wife, saying, “She wears what she wants –IN THE NAME OF JESUS,” the crowd and the internet went nuts.
How dare that lady come for Meagan Good?! OH NO SHE DIDN’T!
I didn’t share that video because I didn’t agree with it 100%. “She can wear what she wants IN THE NAME OF JESUS.” She can certainly wear what she wants, we all can. But, I can not walk around with my butt hanging out and say, “I’m a Christian, I’m already saved, so I can wear this if I want – in the name of Jesus!”
We all have our choice in every matter in life, including how we dress – God gave us free will. But, after we decide to live for His glory – He also gives us his word and the Holy Spirit to help lead those choices.
We will have varying OPINIONS – but we should not coat our opinion “in the name of Jesus,” if that opinion does not line up with the word of God. That’s where I felt like Devon messed up. Saying his wife could wear whatever she wants was a fact, and his opinion. But, I feel that by adding “in the name of Jesus,” it gave the impression that God is simply “okay” with whatever we wear – no matter what.
The lady “coming for Meagan,” I totally agreed that her method wasn’t the most appropriate. She sounded kind of rude and it didn’t sound loving.
So, 100% kudos to Devon for coming to his wife’s rescue. It was charming and appreciated to see a husband defend his wife. I did like that his first response was to defend his wife’s honor. Much RESPECT for that fact. But, I also felt that the lady was pointing out the valid issue of Christian women upholding modesty.
Her delivery was just offensive, which made it easy to miss what she may have been trying to say and just cheer for Devon.
I personally felt that she was addressing modesty and maybe she was trying to call Meagan out a little too, who knows? But, I have to say, we can’t talk, “saving sex for marriage,” and not talk “lust and temptation (by the way we dress).”
Lust of the flesh is a big struggle for men and women alike and can make #TheWait even more of a struggle!
I think it’s important to discuss ways to withstand temptation and also how we can avoid some of it. We are in fact instructed to FLEE from temptation. And the temptation to fall into the traps of an over sexualized culture are so strong.
It’s easier to dance with temptation than to FLEE (RUN) from it.
As a Christian woman living in this world I don’t want to talk about modesty in dressing, because it opens up the door of conviction and makes me have to assess the way I dress. I like a nice low cut sexy dress too (even though I don’t own much cleavage at all). But, if I’m being honest, I know that everything I may choose to wear isn’t always a modest choice… or something I would feel appropriate wearing in any setting. Ouch. I don’t want to talk about this no more.
But, I am being lead to write, so darn it, I’m writing this uncomfortable blog that is no doubt convicting for myself.
A few weeks ago, we (social media audience) were cheering on Ayesha Curry (Golden State Warriors player, Steph Curry’s wife) for saying this:
Men on social media were saying how they, “wanted an Ayesha Curry,” and us women (even non-modest dressing ones) were cheering for her message of modesty as well.
Now, a few weeks later we are cheering on Devon Franklin for saying “(she) Meagan wears what she wants – IN THE NAME OF JESUS.” There is a striking contrast there. Which one do we really agree with? Covering up and being modest, or wearing whatever we want? Again, ouch!
I’m all for a man defending his wife, especially if someone is, “coming for her.”
But, here is what I’m hoping happened later on that evening when Meagan and Devon got alone. I’m hoping that maybe they got real with each other and discussed how the lady did have a valid point. Maybe they talked about how they are public figures who are being public about standing on God’s word as it relates to sex before marriage, so maybe they should stand firm on other aspects of that too.
Maybe they discussed how as believers we sometimes pick and choose what we will and what we won’t apply to our own lives. Maybe they got real about how we can all be hypocrites sometimes, especially when it comes to things we are not ready to give up, “IN THE NAME OF JESUS.”
1 Timothy 2 9-10 does call us to modesty.
And a lot of people take this out of context cause they think it means we can’t wear nice things, but that’s not what it means. The scripture is saying adorn yourself, NOT JUST IN FANCY CLOTHES but in actions, in the way you live. Modesty in dress and in actions.
While we don’t have a SPECIFIC and strict dress code to follow, we are suggested to be modest. Which I have to admit, I sometimes want to let a little more show too.
I don’t know about you all – but for me, being a believer in this day and age of, “compromise and do what feels good,” is EXTREMELY hard. But, I am still aware and convicted of what God calls us to in His word. And, we shouldn’t be mad at others for calling us out on truths. Especially other believers who do so in love.
But, we do get mad. We get mad and offended because we are comfortable in our walks as they are. We are not ready to grow. Heck, if I’m being honest, I have to say that just writing this and thinking about posting it gives me anxiety. Why? Because, it will make me have to be more accountable and aware of my own modesty. It will make me have to think like Ayesha Curry, “is this too much? Is this more suitable just for my husband?” – and maybe sometimes, I don’t want to think like that.
Maybe sometimes I don’t want righteous thoughts. But, God calls us as BELIEVERS (if you’re not a believer then maybe this doesn’t apply) to not be of this world.
“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.”
What I’m getting at here is, this generation of believers is full of compromise. We are fence straddlers sometimes. Being being bold in a world that waters down morals, beliefs, and just about everything worth believing in is HARD.
Are we even willing to do what’s hard? I know that I’m not always willing. But today, that’s my conviction.
Are there areas in your life as a Christian that you know you should address, but ignore because it’s too hard? Areas we get mad if attention Is drawn to it? Yes? Mines too. I do admire that Meagan Good asked the woman to PRAY for her. That was probably the most humble reply that she could have given. Kudos for that!
It is very important to also remember that just because we may fall short in different areas does not mean God can’t still use us. God already knows the areas Meagan Good may struggle in as well and yours and my areas. And I believe He will still use us. A wise man once said, “God doesn’t call the qualified – He qualifies the called.” And even in our weakness, He can still use us for His glory. What a Mighty God we serve.
We are always standing in the need of prayer…So, here is my prayer for us…
Help me, my friends, family and acquaintances that believe in you. Help us to stand for truth and be aware of when we are blindly applauding things that are actually NOT right. Lord, that’s hard to do in this world we live in. Compromise is way more comfortable. Help us to step out of the box of compromise and be honest about what we believe to be true. Help us to me a light in darkness. Help us to be sight in blindness. Help us in areas that we fall short in that don’t line up with your word. Help us to all grow and change in our spiritual journeys. For His glory, #InthenameofJesus…
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