I am sitting here reading Gabrielle Union’s new book, “We’re Going to Need More Wine.” I came to the end of the first chapter and this quote resonated with me. It reminded me of something that I have heard before, just worded a little different.
“You were fly, dope, and amazing from birth,” I would tell that girl now. “From the second you took your first breath, you were worthwhile and valid. And I’m sorry you had to wait so long to learn that for yourself.”
-Gabrielle Union to her younger self
That resonates with me because as this year 2017 is coming to a screeching stop, I realize that this has been one of my most beautiful years yet. I realize that this year I saw myself so clearly for what has felt like the first time in a long time.
“You were fly, dope, and amazing from birth…”
This year has felt like that moment when you wake up in the morning and head straight to the bathroom to put in your contacts (cause God knows you can not see a thing without them or your glasses). This year as I fumbled around with ideas, aspirations, challenges, and everything in between…I saw myself. I saw this amazing woman, and I loved her so much.
“…And I’m sorry you had to wait so long to learn that for yourself.”
It is no secret about the struggles that I have faced to get here. I have written about them on the blog before. Some of those struggles revisit me from time to time, but I am proud of myself for being able to breathe and experience the beauty that is realizing I am a human being. I was not born to be perfect, I was born to be real.
I am allowed to feel whatever it is that I need to feel. I am allowed to change my mind. I am allowed to be proud. I am allowed to mess up. I am allowed to not know. I am allowed to lead. I am allowed to follow. I am allowed to be unruly at times. I am allowed to just be who I am.
As I become more of who I am, my heart is compelled to grab hold of other women’s hands and pull them along to who they are meant to be as well. My heart breaks for every woman who just doesn’t see herself yet.
You see, some of us do not see who we are. We see what has happened to us. We do not see the promise. We only see the pain. Some of us do not think that there is anything left outside of what has happened to us. Some of us do not realize that there is so much just pending to happen THROUGH us.
As we walk into the newness of a fresh year, I invite you to begin a healing journey. I invite you to get closer to seeing yourself for who God created you to be. I invite you to view yourself with a clarity that can only come from the Creator.
Now, I remember what Gabrielle’s quote reminded me of…Psalm 139.
“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are
I know that full well.”
I pray that you walk into 2018 with an urgency to see yourself. I hope that you are filled with an eagerness to accept you for who you were created to be.
“From the second you took your first breath, your were worthwhile and valid…”