Last year, I watched the #MTYRetreat hashtag faithfully as all of the magic unfolded right before my eyes on the gram. Never in my life had I wanted to be apart of something so badly.
I have been a fan of Myleik Teele since 2012 when I had a CurlBOX subscription. I dubbed her as my big-sister-in-my-head when I began listening to her podcast. The MTY (#mytaughtyou) Podcast is one of the first podcasts I had ever listened to. It is also the only podcast that I have heard every single episode of. Believe me, every single episode is sure to inform you, and challenge you to just DO BETTER, GIRL!
Myleik represents excellence in a way that I had never seen before. Just by being real about her own experiences, she has helped transform lives and she inspires us all to just do the work. No shortcuts over here. Myleik was one of the first black women to normalize going to therapy for me. I truly owe my bi-weekly appointments (that I have been keeping for a year and a half now) to her transparency. She helped break the stigma for me. The pep-talks from Myleik’s podcast truly helped hold me down long before I even started going to therapy, and for that I give so much thanks.
Since 2016, I have been working to help other women turn their goals into growth by advocating for mental health, and personal development through my Glittered in Goals Tribe.
This year I was blessed to attend The Retreat by Myleik. I spent 4 days and 3 nights in Cancun, Mexico at the luxurious Nizuc Resort and Spa. 130 black women flooded this resort with melanin magic as we prepared to be pampered and poured into by Myleik and her team.
There has been so much content flooding the socials as attendees try to break things down. I get it. We just want to express our experiences, gratitude, lessons learned, and all of the things that made The Retreat amazing. Truth is, you just had to be there to understand the full magnitude. But, when you experience something as transformative as The Retreat, you just want to tell the world what has happened.
Getting to hear from all of the boss-lady speakers felt a lot like hanging out with a big sister (Myleik) and her friends. Myleik brought along her real life friends to help her pour into us. It was like one big girl chat on the best girl’s trip ever.
I am going to do my best and break down the M.A.G.I.C by giving you some of my favorite gems that I picked up. I love making things digestible and making them bite sized. I do that with acronyms sometimes. So, here we go…
Here are some of the key takeaways from the speakers that I plan to implement into my life. Here is the M.A.G.I.C.
“Many people get so obsessed with wanting to do it perfect, and then they don’t do anything.” – Myleik Teele
Myleik really hit it on the head here. So many times we get wrapped up in wanting the thing we do to be perfect, and as a result we don’t get any ACTUAL work done. I loved this quote. It is a reminder that perfection is a myth. We just have to do what we can with excellence, and the rest will fall into place accordingly. Do it, it doesn’t have to be perfect. Just DO something.
This is one of the many things I have learned from Myleik.
On her podcast I have heard her say several times to just, “finish something.” This has held me accountable in many areas of my life, especially when it has come to following through on ideas for my organization. I think that we all can take and apply this in our lives, and watch how it changes things.
“All lessons DO NOT have to come through pain. God only does that when we are not paying attention.” – Devi Brown
Devi Brown’s masterclass was easily one of the most impactful parts of the The Retreat for me. Devi spoke to us about what living in our PURPOSE truly means. She led us through a mindful activity that required us to imagine who we are if we strip away all of the titles we wear (ex: wife, mother, job title, financial status etc.). At the end, we have to acknowledge that we still exist beyond those titles, and we still have a purpose to fulfill.
Devi explained that, “Your true purpose is what you are meant to explore for your entire lifetime,” (even after some of those titles may no longer be relevant). She went on to say that, “Purpose is using your unique gifts to be of service to other people.”
This lesson rocked me to my core. I seriously wanted to stand up and yell, “PREACH!”
The quote, “All lessons DO NOT have to come through pain…” is a reminder that once we identify our purpose, we can stop hurting ourselves by chasing everything else that is not really it.
Whew. Just let that sink in.
“Get comfortable with being the elephant in the room.” – Karleen Roy
THIS. RIGHT. HERE! Karleen is such a firecracker, and I love it. Her ambition, creativity, and willpower is what helped bring Myleik’s vision to life for The Retreat. Karleen is the owner of The Vanity Group, a boutique creative agency that specializes in bespoke events and luxury services.
Karleen knows a thing or two about being confident and speaking up. She went on to explain that if we want to be successful at what we do, and if we want other people to support and know what that is, we have to, “Get comfortable being the elephant in the room.” Basically, SPEAK UP, SIS!
Use your voice.
In the words of my good friend, Jotina Buck, “DON’T SHRINK.” This was a great reminder that there is a difference between being conceited and simply being comfortable with the SIZE of your presence. We have to own it.
“I hate regret more than I hate fear.” – Yvonne Orji
This was Yvonne Orji’s response when an attendee asked how does she find the confidence to take the next step. The theme of The Retreat was, “Preparing for Leaps of Faith.” I felt like Yvonne’s response to this question summed it up perfectly.
We have to HATE REGRET more than we HATE FEAR. Would you rather do it scared, or regret that you never did it at all?
Something to think about…
Which leads me to one of my next favorite quotes that we heard from Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts during the sunrise service on the beach.
“If you step into who God has called you to be, and if you step into the awareness of His strength and His power available to your life, your heel can bruise the serpent’s head as well. That generational curse, that thing that no one else in your family was ever able to do, but God has told you that you are the one who will be able to do it.” – Sarah Jakes Roberts
Both of these quotes are now buried in my heart. They are the soundtrack that I will play over and over when I find myself feeling doubtful of what I am capable of.
“Chase JOY” – Luvvie Ajayi
Last but not least, Luvvie challenged us to CHASE JOY. In a day and age where there is a pressure to chase so many other things, this jumped out at me. When I was in my church youth group back in the day, they broke the word J.O.Y down like this: Jesus first, Others Second, Yourself Last. So to me, Luvvie’s quote was a reminder to chase God’s plan for me, serve others by using my true gifts (PURPOSE), and the outcome would ultimately BRING MYSELF TRUE JOY. Living my life in a way that produces JOY is what I strive to do every single day.
These takeaways from The Retreat are not even the half of what the weekend meant to me. However, these are some tips that I feel any and everyone can apply to their lives right away. The beauty of attending something so powerful is that it has a pour over affect. What has been poured into you will flow over into the lives of the people around you. So, this is just me trying to pour a little over to you.
Take this M.A.G.I.C and apply it liberally.